Jada Pinkett-Smith is aware of the critics that frown up their noses at the way she raises her daughter, Willow. Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair as she pleases, a fact that bothers many who feel girls shouldn’t have that much control over their appearance at such a young age.
Jada decided to address the criticism in a Facebook post:
“A letter to a friend…This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”
I’m pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before but seriously this is something we should be teaching all our children. Their bodies are theirs, not ours as parents. As soon as you tell someone their body doesn’t belong to theirs you take away so much from them.
“Let’s face it - English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren’t invented in England or French fries in France….
Kendall in the new episode tonight
that highlight though 🙏
This is the main reason for my general annoyance with lack of size regulation in the fashion industry…
men’s pants are labeled by waist and inseam measurement. women’s pants are labeled by voodoo. even though i do not buy women’s pants, i can recognize this as objectively dumb.
THE NOTES ON THIS
because i can’t stress this enough. this is why i don’t let the numbers get to me. as jumpingjacktrash so eloquently said “women’s pants are labeled by voodoo.”
so when boys make fun of girls taking forever to shop and trying everything on
WE FUCKING HAVE TO OR NOTHING WILL FIT
I can’t even fit into the smallest size at gap. The pants go half way up my torso because apparently low rise jeans there are still high rise for my short torso
I’m exactly the same in that shop, gave up shopping there years ago. I’d have trouble getting one of my arms through their skinny jeans.
the last one killed me
Girls pose by a jail that recalls the witch trials of 1692 in Salem, Massachusetts. Photo taken in 1945.
I recently learned that the water in Salem was contaminated with the fungus from which LSD is derived and a legitimate theory for the whole thing is that everyone in the town was tripping balls
This might be the greatest thing ive ever seen on the internet
We did a whole massive thing on this in history. I believe the fungus in question is called Ergot and it’s terrifying. It makes your muscles spasm so when they had seizures that was the reason, not because they were possessed. One woman had to be strapped to her bed, she was seizing so bad. And, like ‘theybuildbuildings’ said, it had the same effects as LSD; as soon as you touch it, let alone consume it, it messes with your entire system. The worst thing is, you practically always had a bad trip. Many complained about bugs crawling under their skin or monsters emerging from the shadows to scratch and bite at them until they were screaming. It was a horrendous thing and the worst part is, Ergot is still around. It grows on crops and, if your wheat isn’t properly treated, it can be eaten and you’ll most likely experience the same as the women of Salem.
god i love history
- Ergotism was well known by the time of the trials, the symptoms probably would have been identified. It was considered a terrifying disease for over a thousand years, known as “holy fire” or “St. Andrew’s Fire”. The most telling sign of ergotism, gangrene, wasn’t even present. It is uncommon for ergotism to be marked solely by convulsions.
- Ergotism didn’t poison the water supply. If it had been a threat to the town it would have been through consumption of rye.
- You’re underestimating the importance of William Griggs, the town doctor who diagnosed the so-called witchcraft. It wasn’t until after he diagnosed Betty that the accusations and claims from the girls started.
- The girls were described as “hale and hearthy” outside of court. Ergotism wasn’t called “the holy fire” because it was mild. It was awful, with rates of fatality between 10-40%. Little was mentioned of vomiting, gastrointestinal issues, skin color change, chills, headaches…. The basic symptoms.
To disregard the unbelievable affect of class and gender on the Puritans is shocking. A wild fungus may seem more interesting, but it disregards prejudice, religion bases psychosis, misogyny, and hate for outsiders that permeated Salem.
Everyone accused was a social pariah. The only exceptions to this are the people who questioned the trials. This is not by accident. Sarah Good was a beggar, Giles Corey was generally distrusted and had previously been accused of murder, Tituba was a black woman who spoke of omens and evil, Martha Carrier had been accused of witchcraft only two years prior and had inherited wealth despite patriarchal norms, Sarah Osbourne was challenging property laws and social norms, Margaret Scott was a poor widow who had been disliked for as long as 20 years, and so on and so on. They struck out against people their families were suspicious of.
These little girls were under tremendous stress. They could celebrate no holidays, express no strong emotions, no dancing or music, no toys, suffered rampant abuse espoused as discipline, and lived under the constant overwhelming fear of Hell. The older generation at that time was bemoaning the youths’ lack of piety and dedication to Christ. In other words, the girls were miserable and well aware that according to their parents only Hell awaited their misbehavior. They were trying to survive in an adult world not meant, or willing to, support the needs of children. To display anger, fear, or sorrow was a personal weakness. But to do so when coerced by the devil was perfectly acceptable. So they acted out, became hysterical. And claimed the devil was behind it all.
That may not be as exciting as the, “but they ate this spore, right? and it was like a bad trip on LSD!” but it’s almost certainly correct.
This is why you cant trust women, even when theyre mouth is closed theyre still lying to you
you do realize that this is really hurtful right?
i did not do this to show how i am ‘lying’ to men or anyone, it’s not about how you, as a man, should feel about it - it’s about myself.
to me your statement sounds as if the left side of this picture is something awful or horrible. and no, it’s not. it is my face - with and without makeup. and whether i chose to wear it or not is MY AND JUST MY decision. and when i do, i do it for myself - so that i feel good about myself - not for you.
Women aren’t born with makeup on, guy. Just like penises don’t circumcise themselves, and air conditioning isn’t ‘natural’. Makeup is no different than brushing your hair, or bubblegum. It’s elective. Although I have a sneaking suspicion that you’re not very loved by the ladies.
- Treat makeup-less women like shit for looking “less attractive”
- Pressure women to wear makeup in order to receive basic respect
- Treat women like malicious liars for wearing the makeup they were told they HAD to wear
I DONT SEE WHY WE’RE BEING BLAMED FOR MEN TO BE STUPID ENOUGH TO THINK WOMEN HAVE WINGED EYELIDS OR BRIGHT RED LIPS.
|—||something my 10th grade history teacher told me about how he knew he wanted to marry his wife (via sexual-feelings)|
“Racism is not dead. It’s not. And that’s why this film is so important. To understand American society today, it starts with these kinds of stories, and the fact that they haven’t been dealt with yet. There’s work to be done. There are apologies that need to be sought and apologies that need to be offered. And that’s on a political level and a social level and an individual level and a communal level.” - Lupita Nyong’o
THIS!! PREACH LUPITA PREACH!!!
The racism that reared it’s very ugly head after her Oscar win is proof that is not dead in any way, shape, or form.
You stay killin ‘em, Lupita! Proud of you!
The racism concerns me as much as the Xenophobia. Some black folk are not happy she got all that attention and even won the Oscar more so because she comes from another place. I think McQueen wanted to make a radical film devoid of all that white saviour narrative. I think he was trying to be subversive when he brought in external actors. I think white folk would have shut down if he had given the lead roles to African American actors.
I’m glad that Lupita immersed herself in that role and became well versed in the history. Her statements show that she came out with a better understanding of things, she knows whose side she’s on, We are one people, when the system dehumanises one black body, it dehumanises all of us. All of us.
I wish more black people would take time to study what happened after the slaves left the ports and why things are the way they are. Only then will we understand what needs to be done.
Everything you said is on point and very true especially: “We are one people, when the system dehumanises one black body, it dehumanises all of us. All of us.” Thank you for saying it, I hope more people can realize this.
When Lupita received that award she said that it was ironic that her joy was coming from a place of pain that unlike her Patsey had to live that life.
I remember that during her time on the talk show circuit she shared a very poignant anecdote. She said that at that at one time they were shooting this scene, where she had to be whipped and it took make-up 6hrs to prepare her back, at the end of the day, she asked the make-up girl not to take off the ‘wounds’, she figured it would be easier to leave everything as is and, sleep on her belly and then next day, spend 2 hrs in make-up instead of 6 hrs. When she got to the hotel room she found it difficult to sleep, every night had been a struggle since she’d began shooting that film but, staying off her back that night made every thing seem so much worse. And she started crying, she couldn’t stop. And then she thought of what Patsey had endured. And slowly began to quiet down.She had to clam down because she realised Patsey’s had lived that life and never got a single day off from the harsh existence of her reality.
Lupita gets it. There are Africans who have never tried to fully realise what slavery meant, much in the same way post colonial children who don’t know and do not wish to know about the colonisation. In a nutshell they’re africans who care nought about Slavery, Colonisation, Apartheid or even neo colonisation. They are so apolitical they do not understand the political as well as socio-economic impact of white supremacy. On the other hand there are Africans who get it. And Lupita really got it.
Initially I was upset when the mumblings began because, on one hand I was fixated on the idea that she symbolises the face of Africa, that face that imperialists do not want the rest of the world to see; wealthy, well educated, poised, articulate, well travelled, stylish. So one hand her victory was going to be a huge victory for Africa. And then of course people started asking questions; why didn’t McQueen select an AA actor to play the role…how can she who comes from another land tell a story of this land…is she being well received because she is a particular type of black etc.
I understand where these kind of concerns are coming from and in some regards indeed there is work to be done. However, we must find it in ourselves to celebrate her victory because her victory is for all of us. It imbued us with a sense of renewed possibility. We are a people who are very much in bondage and we need to focus on starting/continuiing to build our lives, be it; our understanding of each other, knowledge base, relationships, careers, ambitions.
African Americans also need to realise that in as much as there are some brothas/sistas from the motherland who do not understand why things are the way they are, by the same token there those who do. And we honour our brothers, whose roots are now firmly embedded in the diaspora because your presence speaks of the indomitable spirit of your ancestors.You represent our best, our brightest and our strongest. Your travails and triumphs are truly the stuff of folk lore.
Let those who have eyes and ears be inspired by your story. We salute you for Harriet Tubman, Nat Turner, Al Hajj Malik El Shabbazz (Malcolm X) MLK jr, Kwame Ture (Stokely Carmichael), Medger Evans, Rosa Parks, Betty Shabbazz, The Black Panthers, Maya Angelou, Tony Morrison, Alice Walker et al, Oprah, FLOTUS, POTUS, Dr Rice, Dr Rice, Gen Powell, Angela Bassett, Michael Jackson, Ed Moses, Juan Carlos, Michael Jordan, Nikki Giovanni, Sonia Sanchez, Tupac Shakur, Shonda Rhimes the list is long and endless. We also salute the broken because we know why things are the way they are.Your lives are a testament of what the black body has been forced to endure. I can only pray that we’ll continue to work at bridging the gap so that one day we may stand as one.
Lupita’s victory was for all us.
A very picky chinese farmer who had a bout of genius decided that pears were boring.. tasty but very boring and uninteresting. As any modern day picasso or brilliant person does he decide to go against his mother’s words and play with his food. Setting out to create a buddha pear by encasing the young pears in molds while they’re still on the tree.As they grow they have no choice but to take the shape of the spiritual figure. Buddha pears are sold in china, but the farmer plans to spread the love worldwide.